Don't get too close to people

After meeting many people, I found that all grudges are caused by people being too good. If you get too close, you will get into trouble.

Then there are grudges and grudges, the same is true in a family, in a unit, and even among friends.When you get better, you can wear a pair of pants together. After you separate, you can die and never meet.Because they are so good.

Master Hongyi wrote a poem in his later years: "A gentleman's friendship is as light as water.It is a thousand miles away when you hold on to the image."It's good that the relationship between people is faint, and such a relationship can last for a long time.If it is always thick and the two are as thick as honey, it is time to separate.Lao Tzu said, "The Great is called passing away, the Death is called far away, and the Distant is called returning."If the relationship keeps warming up, it will definitely fade. This is the law of the universe.

If people are appropriate, keep a distance, and keep a certain distance when talking to people.This distance is reflected in speaking. You really need to talk less. If you talk too much, it will be nonsense and useless.Whether it is between husband and wife or family, you must keep a distance appropriately. Only with distance can you have feelings.I used to know a senior brother because they were so good to each other.She told me, don’t teach me Buddhism, you can save others, but you can’t save me.I think so, it's too close.Later, she left Xiamen, and after leaving, I was too lazy to contact me, so slowly she could think of my merits and my words, and slowly she felt that my words made sense.Then I like to see my space and gradually realized a lot.So I found that I still kept some distance.

I have seen a saying, why did there once a traitor like monk Shanxing and Devadatta appear next to the Buddha?Because they are too close, too close, they cannot see the other party's merits, and cannot observe the other party's Dharma body, so they cannot see the Buddha's thirty-two appearances and eighty good things, but they can see the Buddha's fourteen ugly appearances.It is too close to you, lacks a kind of respect and cannot see the other person's merits.When the relationship is good, greed often develops, and this greed is the root cause of our hatred for the other person in the future.Without love, there is no hatred.

I got too close to them, and the master really couldn't save them, but I often saw his shortcomings.Now I often think of a word from Master, and he said, "You should stay away from me, look at my teachings, just think about me, don't get close to me."When many people get close to each other, they often cannot see the other person’s merits, but they see the mistakes. Isn’t this a kind of karma?

The relationship between people is really interesting. Without a kind of respect, it is really difficult to maintain, and it is the same between husband and wife.We say that we should give both kindness and power, we should be kind and virtuous.This way it can be maintained well.Just like my mentor, whenever he got angry, everyone in Guanyin Temple was afraid of him, but it was amazing to get better.There is a magnetic field in him, so when we think of him, we all have a blessing power.There is a kind of respect.We can feel respect for our master, which is also the merit of our master.

I remember a master once said, when you really see the Buddha, you will not even have the heart to become a Buddha.Because the Buddha is so plain and so ordinary.So when you see it, we think that Buddha is just like this.How can you think about becoming a Buddha?But people who truly have merits are also very plain. When we do not have blessings, we often cannot see the other person's merits.

The relationship between people is really an art, or a very important knowledge in life.It is really not easy to learn well.I think it is a bit important. First of all, you should have a mentality of not seeking anything. Don’t ask for the other person. If you don’t want to, you will be strong. Don’t ask for the other person. Then do more things for the other person, so that the relationship will gradually get better.Many people's relationships get worse and worse because they ask too much from each other.This is the reason for the fall.

A gentleman's friendship is as light as water.Let us live a simple life without too much good things.At the same time, we must be grateful for anything others give us. Only by being grateful can the relationship last for a long time. There is no gratitude between husband and wife. Two people are debt collectors, and they collect debts from each other. Can two debt collectors live together? People are not grateful for each other, and the other party is good. For him, it is a kind of debt repayment. After paying it back, it is over.It is impossible to be nice to the other person to be good to you again.This is also the law of cause and effect.

Everyone comes to this world with one or several huge tasks.After the mission was over, he left.Fate between people is also a task.That's all.If you have a light relationship, you can continue well in the next life.