Do happy things with lovers

Everyone is probably familiar with "doing happy things with lovers". The secular world has worldly teachings, and Buddhism has Buddhist meanings.In most cases, people in the world use this sentence to describe the emotions between men and women, and Buddhism extends the meaning of this sentence.Buddhism calls all people in the world a sentiment, and even calls all things in the world a sentiment.

Here, we want to mention that Buddhism calls all things in the world sentient beings, and then there is a saying that sentient beings are sentient beings.Sentient beings include animals, plants, and even mountains, rivers and earth in the eyes of our world.Sentient beings refer to phenomena arising from the harmony of causes and conditions, and the word "emotion" can be summarized.Animals have emotions that we ordinary people understand, and animals belong to sentient beings, and there is no objection to this.Science has found that plants also have emotions, plants also have life, and plants also belong to sentient beings, just like the eight merit waters, all trees, flowers, etc. in the Pure Land, they can interpret Buddhism.The mountains, rivers and the earth all have feelings. This is an extension, and naturally there is a reason.Mountains, rivers and earth are also produced by the combination of causes and conditions. Like us humans, they also have their stage of their emergence, development and demise. We humans and nature must live in harmony and cannot violate the laws. If we cannot over-open mountains and mining, excessive mountain mining will be punished by nature.The reason I have said so much here is more because I hope everyone understands that plants, like animals, belong to sentient beings.When our vegetarian restaurant serves food, many people can understand that animals belong to sentient beings. We do not eat meat in order to protect animals and protect lives.When we serve our Wuliang Light Vegetarian Restaurant, there is another point that we repeatedly emphasize that we cannot waste a grain of rice or a vegetable, not only because of this grain of rice and this vegetable, from agricultural production, industrial production, commercial trade, and then to supply to the dining table, many people sweat, not only because more of us still have no food, but also a deeper meaning, because these plants, including rice, vegetables, etc., are sentient beings. They have dedicated their lives for our survival, and they are also sentient beings, and we must not waste them at will.Therefore, when we look at everything in the world, it depends on our own hearts. If we think that everything in the world is sentient, then there is a world of sentient beings, and all things in the world, including mountains, rivers and earth, are sentient beings.

Let’s go back to our topic and do happy things with lovers.The sentence itself emphasizes that there are lovers and happy things.Today we will focus on having lovers and happy things.

The meaning of a lover certainly includes our parents, brothers, sisters, husband and wife, children, colleagues, friends, etc. We live in each other's world.Their happiness, their pain, etc., are like our own happiness and pain, and we can all feel deeply with them.Most of us actually hope that the sentient beings around us, like ourselves, can live happily, safely and healthy.We meet them in this life and are able to live together because of fate in the past lives. We must cherish them even more. No matter what kind of cause and effect we meet, we will repay the debt if we have debts, and repay the kindness if we have good gratitude.

A lover actually refers to all those who are destined to be with us. The destinedness here is different from what we usually understand, including all those we can see, those we can hear, and those we can think of;Including those we live together in a small family, those who can live together in a country, and everyone who can live together on the earth.Because anyone has the potential to have an impact on ourselves directly or indirectly.If we hear from the news that disasters occur, how many people die, how many people are injured, etc., we will also empathize with them, and we will also suffer because of their pain. Even those who have not met us can also cause our emotional reactions, either pain or injury.For example, the US election itself is the business of the United States, and it has also attracted the attention of people all over the world. China will also analyze who will win the election, what policies will be formulated after he comes to power, which policies are related to China, how should we deal with it, etc. As for the US election alone, it is not because the Internet now has a great impact on us. Even if there is no Internet, no news, and no newspapers, it will also have an impact on us. It’s just that our psychological feelings are not that strong, or we don’t feel them at all, but it doesn’t mean that we don’t feel them, and the impact does not exist. So is the US president our lover? Of course, what about the American people?Of course we have lovers.Therefore, people who live on the same earth must also know how to respect and cherish each other, because they are also affectionate with us.

So what is a happy thing?This is easy to understand, and we only explain this issue from worldly things.A happy thing is something that both parties are happy. One party is very happy, and making the other party suffer or heartbroken. Such things are of course not a happy thing.It is very simple to do things to make ourselves happy, but how can we make each other happy too?This depends on our own attitude towards people and things.

1. Give up the idea of ​​self-centeredness and self-interest, and consider issues from the other party’s standpoint when dealing with others.People in our Saha world are born with ego and selfishness.Why do we have conflicts with family or friends?In fact, it is about something. Everyone has their own position and opinions. These positions and opinions are basically viewed based on their own standpoints. That is, in terms of thought, we always consider ourselves, and in terms of our attitude, we also do anything in a way that is beneficial to us. Under no circumstances can we not allow ourselves to suffer any losses. Who are beggars who accidentally break our things, and most people still have to ask them for compensation.If we accidentally scratch someone’s car, we think that after completing the compensation procedure, we should give the other party a repair fee;But if our own car is scratched, we have more mental thoughts, such as taking time to deliver the car to the repair shop, repairing the car takes time, delaying our use of the car, and going to the repair shop and picking up the car, consuming fuel and spending money, all of which can only be paid out of our own pocket, etc. So at the scene of the car scratching, some people will not help but get angry at the scratching person, just feel that their interests have been damaged, and do not consider it from the standpoint of others. If no one deliberately scratches other people's cars, we will accidentally scratch other people's cars. Wait, if you think about it this way, your mentality will not be hot. Just handle it quickly according to the insurance and relevant national regulations. If you think about it more from the other party's standpoint, scratching small things will not cause trouble for both of us. On the contrary, if you are happy, you can comfort the other party. If you say it doesn't matter, small things will be very simple to deal with. The other party was originally apologized for scratching your car. If you say this, you can make the other party happy, and the worries will be resolved, and the worries will become happy. Both parties may make friends because of scratching.In fact, everything in the world is like this. When we interact with people, we solve any problem, and consider the problem from the other party's perspective, we can resolve many contradictions and turn troubles into Bodhi.

2. Give up the view that money is the priority.This point could have been discussed first, but we put it into consideration because it is very important to us modern people.Nowadays, people regard money as everything, and rich people have become powerful and status people.In our WeChat questions, most people are troubled by money, such as low income, others occupying our money, etc.Some Buddhist friends even regarded his grandmother's money as stealing and came to ask us how to solve it.A considerable number of people regard money as more important than relationships between relatives and friends.Take the small thing about taking grandma to pay for it. This matter itself is our own fault.If we give grandma some care, have we ever learned about what grandma needs, and have we met his needs?What if grandma wants money, but has no money, and no one around her is willing to give her money?She had to get it herself.Also, if we are not short of money and our lives are not affected, what can we do if our grandma takes some money?Why do you still need to use the word "steal"?Money and everything are originally shared by the world, but we just borrow it for us and will not take a single part after death.We only eat three meals a day and sleep one bed. What can we do if we have more money?Cabbage and radish meals three times a day are good for your health. Eat wild game every day. You will visit high blood pressure, diabetes, cancer and other rich diseases.A simple and simple life, as long as we don’t have too much greed, isn’t it a kind of happiness?

Similarly, when we do business, we should consider each other more. We can make money by ourselves and customers by making money, and we can cooperate and win-win, rather than the ultimate goal. Both parties can do something together and make some money, and everyone will be very happy.

When interacting with friends, benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom and trustworthiness are put first. Don’t conflict because of money at any time. Don’t easily ask someone to borrow money. You must return the money in time if you borrow it. In this way, the relationship between the two parties will be happy.

3. In the team, we must have common goals.In any team, whether in a company, enterprise, government department, or in a volunteer team, a release team, everyone must have a common goal and work towards a common goal.Everyone worked hard toward the same goal, and when the goal was achieved, everyone was happy, everyone was happy, and the sweat, hard work and process I worked hard for before were all happy.If you work in a team, your work is not for a common goal and your ideas are different from others, you must work hard to improve your awareness and improve your thoughts and literacy, so that everyone can have fun working together.For example, when we work in the Wuliang Light Vegetarian Restaurant, our goal is to be staff, volunteers, or guests who come to the restaurant to serve. We all hope that everyone will regard this place as home, and we treat them like our own family.In this way, everyone should improve their awareness. The Wuliang Light Vegetarian Restaurant does not exist because of commercial transactions, but is born out of traditional cultural concepts such as vegetarianism, vegetarianism, mutual assistance, respect for life, and reduce transactions to the public. This requires us to have a consistent goal. At work, we should focus our philosophy on our psychology and remind ourselves whether we have served our family well. We will act in unison. No matter whether it is guests, employees, volunteers, or leaders, we can be happy and do happy things together.If everyone thinks that I am a chef and cook good dishes, I am a waiter and wash dishes, then the customer enters the Wulianggu Vegetarian Restaurant and eats a meal, puts down the dishes and leaves. Now people actually don’t lack a meal, so what is the meaning of the Wulianggu Vegetarian Restaurant?